Rest in Peace M.C.

JC · 25-02-2008, 02:12 AM

Despite a very large circle of friends, I doubt anyone on here knows him, as he was not a "car nut", but anyway, my brother pulled up stumps on 20 Feb after a losing battle with depression. Hoping he's found the peace he sought, and hoping those left can one day return to life as normal (albeit without him).

His acute depression was E & K induced, and despite professional help and medication, he felt that he couldn't go on living with the mental torture. The simple message is DRUGS ARE BAD!

Scott · 25-02-2008, 02:14 AM

Damn. Sorry to hear it JC.

JC · 25-02-2008, 02:17 AM

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Originally Posted by GTP006

Damn. Sorry to hear it JC.

Thanks - I'm sorry to be experiencing it! Easily the worst week of my life on the family front!

RG · 25-02-2008, 03:34 AM

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Originally Posted by JC

Thanks - I'm sorry to be experiencing it! Easily the worst week of my life on the family front!

Sorry to hear mate. Condolences to you and your family. Hope he has found the peace he sought.

fmc351 · 25-02-2008, 02:45 AM

Condolences are never enough. Im sure he has found the peace he obviously needed.

Geez Louise · 25-02-2008, 03:01 AM

Really sorry for your loss. Depression is devistating to everyone who is touched by it.

Blue Oval Mopar Man · 25-02-2008, 03:11 AM

JC, I dont know you but My heart goes out to you and yours. I wish you all the best and remember all the good times mate !

Quasi · 27-02-2008, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Blue Oval Mopar Man

JC, I dont know you but My heart goes out to you and yours. I wish you all the best and remember all the good times mate !

Likewise JC.

rag top · 25-02-2008, 09:31 AM

Sorry to hear that JC - Condolences to you and your family.

OLDFORDNUT · 25-02-2008, 09:37 AM

very sorry to hear this,depression is a hard thing to understand,
kind reguards
Nick

sfr rob · 25-02-2008, 09:44 AM

It's a sad, sad thing depression. I am so sorry to hear it has taken your brother J.C .

robjh80 · 25-02-2008, 09:48 AM

Very sorry to hear of your loss JC, our hearts go out to you and your family, Rob.

Duke · 25-02-2008, 09:50 AM

Well written JC, brought a tear to my eye.

I sincerely hope you and your family find solace in each other and comfort in knowing your brothers' torment has ceased and he is at peace.

Duke.

Ford_fan351 · 25-02-2008, 10:08 AM

Im so sorry to read this, I myself suffer from depression and know how hard it is for people around you to understand it and try to help, I hope your brother is at peace and you and your family can find a way through this difficult time..

Troy..

**DJM83** · 25-02-2008, 10:10 AM

Sorry to hear JC my condolences to you and your family. I hope he is in a better place

Mark^^ · 25-02-2008, 10:21 AM

Dear JC, having been a counsellor for many years, battling depression is devastating for all involved. The pain for the family and friends of someone who decides to end their own lives is also very devastating.

While I am not involved in counselling now, I do live near Canberra, and if you need someone to just have a chat to, just give me a yell via PM

freaky · 25-02-2008, 11:19 AM

Sorry to hear. My brother is fighting this as well, and has been to hell and back..

It's a horrible thing.

JC · 25-02-2008, 02:20 PM

Thanks all for the condolences. Troy - chin up and keep trying; here's hoping the meds you are on are more effective than what my brother was on.

DJL351 · 25-02-2008, 11:41 AM

Very sad. Thoughts and best wishes to you and your family and friends.

Depression - Another silent killer.

Please, if you think a friend or family member is even slightly depressed, help them! Lend an ear; don't judge, don't tell them to pull their heads in etc, just listen. You could be helping more than you know.
(from someone that has been down that very dark road)

GTP534 · 25-02-2008, 11:52 AM

Condolences to you and your family JC.

genebaby · 25-02-2008, 11:52 AM

JC, very sorry to hear about your brother.

fiery · 25-02-2008, 12:01 PM

JC very sorry to all your family and your brothers friends on the loss.
I hope you all can find some peace in the fact he couldn't go on anymore and is in peace now.
Remember the good times and love that you all shared.

Deepest Condolences

troppo · 25-02-2008, 12:20 PM

My condolences to you and your family JC.
Depression is one of those things where it's very difficult to gauge the degree to which someone is affected...making effective treatment so much harder.

JC · 25-02-2008, 02:31 PM

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Originally Posted by troppo

My condolences to you and your family JC.
Depression is one of those things where it's very difficult to gauge the degree to which someone is affected...making effective treatment so much harder.

Thanks - it appears that the hit/miss nature of the treament is what tipped him over the edge. He had been "coping" - not very well, but he was still alive. Then he went on meds for a little over a week with no improvement - in fact, if anything, they made him feel worse. Knowing him, he probably thought "well, if these aren't helping, I have no future". His note says that he didn't want to be a burden to anyone and he couldn't see that it was getting any better - a terrible mind set to be in, but he was, in a funny way, thiking of others, as he always did. Of course he would/may have been better going back to the doc and getting a different type of med, but I think he had faced the demon for long enough and didn't have the mental strength to go on. Before any of this, I would not have associated depression and my brother together at all.

I will certainly miss him, as will the rest of his family, and his partner, and the many friends all over the world that he has left behind. RIP.

troppo · 25-02-2008, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by JC

Thanks - it appears that the hit/miss nature of the treament is what tipped him over the edge. He had been "coping" - not very well, but he was still alive. Then he went on meds for a little over a week with no improvement - in fact, if anything, they made him feel worse. Knowing him, he probably thought "well, if these aren't helping, I have no future". His note says that he didn't want to be a burden to anyone and he couldn't see that it was getting any better - a terrible mind set to be in, but he was, in a funny way, thiking of others, as he always did. Of course he would/may have been better going back to the doc and getting a different type of med, but I think he had faced the demon for long enough and didn't have the mental strength to go on. Before any of this, I would not have associated depression and my brother together at all.

I will certainly miss him, as will the rest of his family, and his partner, and the many friends all over the world that he has left behind. RIP.

I'm afraid you are right there mate...part of the problem with depression is the constant feeling of being overwhelmed by life in general. You have good days and bad days and on the bad ones, the slightest thing can sometimes be the straw that breaks the camel's back.

I don't know you and didn't know your brother but if you want to chat more with someone who has been on both sides of this fence, feel free to PM me.

james22 · 25-02-2008, 12:22 PM

My deepest condolences to you and your family for your loss. Words say so little in a situation like this.... I hope he has found his peace.

bingoTE50 · 25-02-2008, 01:36 PM

Condolescences to the JC family and friends.

Keep your chins up guys ......

Grechie · 25-02-2008, 03:24 PM

JC, im very sorry to hear this, may he rest in peace....

**FTE217** · 25-02-2008, 04:49 PM

JC very sorry to hear for you and all your family......hope time heals the pain and the good memorys bring a smile to your heart !

Feathers · 25-02-2008, 05:29 PM

I'm very sorry to hear it JC.
I'm sure he's in a much better place now, and he'll be looking out for you all until it's time for you to meet again.